Tuesday, March 6, 2012

big brothers and volleyball

I don't know that there are many better things than having a nice big brother.

I'm purely guessing on that, because I never had one. I sure lucked out with an amazing big sister who taught me practically everything I know and I still thank my lucky stars every day for how she herded me through life.

But man alive, I always longed for a big brother too.

I knew they could tease.

I knew they could be mean when they were moody and tired.

I had seen my friends even cry because of those menacing big brothers they had.

But part of me wanted the teasing. Part of me wanted the resilience that I knew having a big brother would bring. And part of me wanted that protectiveness and brotherly love that showed through even when my friends' big brothers were hassling them like nobody's business.

They may not have seen it, but I did. And I wished I had it.

So I'm so happy my girls get to have Max.Seriously.

He is an expert teaser.

Sometimes when the girls complain about that little fact I get a dreamy look in my eye and tell them how lucky they are.

They look at me like I'm completely nuts and run off to whatever they were doing. "It's no use complaining to mom," they realize, and they're off.

There's nothing like that sparkle he gets in his eye when his sisters are around. Nor is there anything to match the sweet way he talks to Lucy. (I can't explain it and I certainly cannot capture it with my camera, but it's there, and it fills the room (and my heart) with warmth.(Man he is tall!)

Yes, I feel so happy for his sisters that they get to have him.

But my heart aches for him that he has no brothers.

I would give up an organ to get him one of those, darn it, but it's just not in the cards for our family.

So I feel glad he gets to play volleyball.

And over-the-moon glad that he just made the JV team in high school.

It was the weirdest thing when he tried out because I don't know that I've wanted something so much for a long time. He had 5:00 am tryouts and then an afternoon tryout that week. When I dropped off he and his friends that day they nonchalantly told me as they piled out of the car that they would find out if they made the team or not at that practice.

My heart jumped right into my throat I was so dang nervous.

I was teary-eyed for those few hours every time I thought about the tryouts. I texted everyone I knew to say prayers for him. I prayed my little guts out. Dave sure thought I was nuts, but oh I wanted it so much more than Max ever even knew to care. Maybe it's because I knew he needed it so much. Not only the confidence that playing a high school sport can bring, but for those "brothers" he can have on the team. They are SUCH nice guys. How I hope they'll fill in even a tiny bit to be the big brothers for Max that he never had.
My heart skipped a beat when he called after tryouts. He even had the audacity to tell me he didn't make it at first to tease me.

But he did make it.
And we're so excited for him.

I tried to have him do some funny, muscle shots or something to commemorate his new uniform stuff, but this is all I got:
And I'll take it.

We're looking forward to a fun season.


  1. way to go Max!!
    I always wanted a big brother too ( I have 3 sisters), i remember when i was in Yw's they came out with a special magazine ( seriously this was like 25 years ago.. There was a story in there about a girl names suzie, who has 6 older brothers, on her 16th birthday they organized her first date, she was so excited too see what 'hot' guy they had lined up, when she opened the door, all her brothers were stood there with a rose for her, and they took her out.. oh, how i wanted an older brother LOL

  2. He is getting so big! So happy for him that he made the team.

  3. Congrats to Max!! That's so awesome! It was fun having older brothers while growing up. I always felt a lil more safe with them around.

  4. I have two girls, but there was a time that I hoped for a boy first to protect his sisters.

    I love reading about big brothers that take their role seriously!

  5. That darling Max! How we love that kid! Which organ? I hope not your heart! You're so funny! Love you!

  6. Awesome job Max!

    We also have just one boy (but with three older sisters). He has often begged me to have a brother for him. :( Fortunately, identical twin boys moved in just across the street last year and he is literally attached at the hip to those two. He calls himself their triplet.

  7. he's just the SWEETEST!!!
    and boy oh boy do I KNOW how brothers like to tease! I have 5 big brothers, so believe me, I KNOW! I did get one big sister too!
    they are lucky!

  8. I loved reading about your son. Such a handsome young man:) I think about my son not having any siblings and it kinda stinks. I have three older half brothers and one younger half sister. We come from a big family in size and are close to aunties, uncles and cousins. We talked about this very thing just the other night and I assured him that his cousins will act like brothers and sisters later in life. Siblings are pretty cool.

  9. That's awesome for him. Just so you know, as someone with a big brother I was always so thankful to have him - even when he teased me and was probably mean to me...I also saw him threaten to beat up his best friend because he had hurt me and wouldn't apologize...

    Because of all of that I always wanted a boy first and was so glad to have that. It took us 7 years to get him a brother and I'm glad for that too but your Max is no doubt seriously blessed with his amazing family.

  10. Max will have 4 amazing brother-in-laws someday.

    Which means you'll have 4 wonderful sons-in-laws someday ;)

  11. correction: Someday you'll have 4 wonderful son-in-laws AND a beautiful daughter-in-law :)

  12. could he look anymore like your husband?! He is growing before our eyes. He sure is handsome:)


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